Christianity and BDSM

So, while I have a lot of seemingly contradictory beliefs or opinions, there is one particular pairing that I feel I should address (albeit briefly, not much time this morning), because I am going to be talking about both at some point or another. So I’m laying it out.

I am in the BDSM lifestyle. It is not a phase, or something I do to spice up sex, for me, it is an orientation. I am multigendered, bisexual (or whatever term you’d like to apply to a multigendered person who is attracted to people, not genitals – I’m not much one for labels anyway), and I will always be supportive of my LGBTQAletskeepaddinglettersforever friends, as well as my friends in the BDSM and Leather lifestyles.

I am a Christian. I was raised incredibly conservatively, but my actual beliefs are more akin to a Doubting Thomas. I am the eternal skeptic, despite definitively believing in a God. I started the first Bible Study at my middle school. I started the first Bible Study and the first LGBT & Allies Club at my high school. I am a believer, and I have an active relationship with God without attending church (primarily because of the whole BDSM thing).

These two things about me are not as mutually exclusive as most people I encounter seem to think that they would be. I want to be clear from the get go that I will not tolerate hate speech (regardless of what form of bigotry it stems from) on my blog, and I am going to post about both of these things.

If you can’t handle that, feel free to jump ship. Just remember this quote as you leave:         “Are your beliefs so fragile that they cannot stand in opposition to mine? Is your God so flimsy, so weak?” – Quills

An Anonymous Outsider

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13 thoughts on “Christianity and BDSM

      • I couldn’t agree more and that is sad. Christianity should be more focused on who Christians are for, Jesus, and less focused on everything Christians are supposedly against. We are all sinners and all need the grace of God. In a system in which a lie is a sin against God as much as murder is, who has the right to judge anyone?

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        • There’s a DC Talk song I was obsessed with several years back called What if I Stumble. It begins with a quote that goes “The single greatest cause of atheism in the world today is Christians, who acknowledge Jesus with their lips, then go out the door, and get on with their lifestyle. This is what an unbelieving world simply finds unbelievable.” Fantastic song too, quote aside. It’s on youtube if you’re interested.

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  1. Hi there I am Andrew born Anne, transitioned by 2000, now married to Jessica, intersexed, I have 2 sons in their 40s and 4 grandchildren whom we never see because their parents cannot handle the life choices we made to hang on to as much sanity as possible.
    Being Christian and transgendered was also an interesting experience since there were so many strange and un Christlike responses but most of my friends stood by me.

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    • First I want to thank you for your courage. I am closeted with my lifestyle, gender, and sexual orientation because of extended family and having a kid (BDSM isn’t viewed too well, and I know too many who have been deemed unfit parents because of it, so I am wary). I hate not being able to be authentic about myself (everywhere but here, anyway), and your courage inspires me that one day I won’t have to hide.

      I found I was met with distaste from both sides: most Christians I knew were repulsed by my lifestyle, and most lifestylers were wary of me because I was a Christian.

      Luckily there are good apples in every barrel too. My mom is a conservative Christian and she and I were talking the other day about me being multigendered (she has known for a while but we had never really talked about it in depth). I was nervous she wouldn’t understand. Her response? God is basically multigendered too, it makes perfect sense to her, and she will never love me any less.

      I’m so glad you stopped in at my blog to read and we got to connect. I applaud you for your bravery. 🙂

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      • Thank you for thinking me/us brave. At first I didn’t know what I was since I was brought up in the country here in Australia and there were few of any kind of people to get the measure of. By the time I realized all I could think to do was to get married quickly since God might ‘heal me’ – ha ha – so I had a not too unhappy 24 years of what one might call ‘ homosexual’ marriage which wasn’t for me.( we have two sons together) I began to transition in 1997 when my Psychiatrist got me to understand I was male rather than female. In the year 2000 Transgendered people became legal- (multi gendered people fit under that umbrella too for legal purposes since the governments decides our gender in this country and allows us to be either/ or, or neither.) Being legal meant that we could get our treatment – i.e surgery and hormones openly and get married if we wanted to a person of the opposite gender. Jessica and I have been together for 15 years.
        I am now a deacon in an independent Christian Community working with a very small flock of people who all know my history and are fine with it.

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